Empower Your Next Adventure: Top Solo Road Trip Tips for an Unforgettable Journey

Solo road trips offer freedom, self-discovery, and adventure—but preparation, intention, and the right mindset are key to a truly magical experience. Dive into these practical and inspiring tips from Amanda Bauner’s “Me and the Magic” podcast to make your next solo journey safe, joyful, and transformative

Embracing the Magic of Solo Road Travel

Solo travel isn’t just about seeing new places—it’s about connecting deeply with yourself and the world around you. Amanda knows that stepping into the driver’s seat alone can feel both exhilarating and daunting. With summer in full swing and the open road calling, Amanda shares invaluable wisdom to help you plan, enjoy, and thrive during your solo road adventures.

Plan with Flexibility: A Blueprint for Adventure

Map a Loose Itinerary, Leave Room for Discovery

Strong planning builds confidence and ensures safety, but solo road trips thrive on balance. Tools like Google Sheets or Road Trippers make organizing routes and key stops simple. Amanda recommends plotting out major destinations and overnight stays, but leaving space for spontaneous detours. For example, on her own drive from Orlando to Asheville, allowing for unscheduled stops meant discovering quirky peach stands in Georgia and unplanned scenic overlooks in the Carolinas.

Share Your Itinerary for Peace of Mind

Safety is paramount. Always send your route, accommodation details, and planned check-ins to a loved one. Regular updates (such as a nightly text) help others know you’re safe—even when your plans change.

Budget Wisely—But Let Yourself Splurge (a Little)

Use a Budget Tracker

Apps make keeping tabs on expenses easy, so Amanda suggests setting daily budgets and tracking spending in categories like food, gas, and lodging. This lets you indulge guilt-free: if you overspend on a memorable meal in Charleston, balance it out with a picnic and a hike the next day.

Seek Out Free & Low-Cost Experiences

State parks, historic sites, and local events can offer priceless experiences for little or no cost. Don’t overlook visitor centers—they’re full of maps, insider tips, and hidden gems. Whether you’re discovering a self-guided trail at Mammoth Cave or collecting quirky brochures, these low-budget finds enrich your trip.

Pack with Purpose: Essentials for Comfort and Safety

Solo travelers become their own best company—and support crew. Amanda’s “essentials kit” includes:

• Power banks and printed directions (for dead zones without cell service)
• First aid and personal safety items
• Comfort items—your favorite playlist, cozy blanket, your pillow

Smart packing not only streamlines your journey, it brings pockets of home with you wherever you wander.

Nourishing Yourself on the Go

Long days on the road can be taxing. Amanda recommends keeping a cooler stocked with healthy snacks: veggies, fruit, cheese, protein bars, and plenty of water. Her morning travel ritual—specific drinks and a blender bottle—anchors her day in familiarity. Staying hydrated and limiting excess sugar or caffeine are key for alertness and health, even if it means more frequent bathroom stops. Use these breaks to move, stretch, and reset your focus.

Prioritizing Wellbeing and Safety

Regular stops (at least every two hours) combat stiffness, fatigue, and the monotony of the road. Amanda emphasizes selecting reputable, well-lit accommodations and trusting your instincts—if a spot feels “off,” don’t hesitate to change plans. Your gut is often your best travel tool.

Intentional Mindset: Turning Solitude into Strength

Loneliness can arise on solo journeys—embrace it. Quiet stretches become opportunities for reflection, journaling, or voice-memo goal setting. Personal rituals, from morning stretches to gratitude lists, ground your travel in intention. Celebrate your wins—navigating a tricky highway, hiking alone, or conquering fears—with a treat or simple acknowledgment.

Find Connection & Community

Solo doesn’t mean isolated—chat with locals, join a walking tour, or strike up a conversation at a café. These small connections infuse your adventure with richness.

Ready to Hit the Road?

Solo road trips, as Amanda reveals, are both a test and a celebration of inner confidence and curiosity. Whether you’re a first-timer or a seasoned traveler, the right preparation and mindset turn the open road into a path of transformation.

Wishing you safe travels, magical moments, and memories that last a lifetime!

Sailing Solo: My Disney Dream Cruise Adventure

Embracing Magic, Connection, and Relaxation on the High Seas

Traveling solo can be one of life’s most magical experiences—especially when it happens aboard a Disney cruise. In this episode of the Me and the Magic podcast, I took listeners along for my memorable solo cruise, sharing insights, tips, and plenty of honest reflections about everything from upgraded rooms to pampering in the spa, island adventures, delicious eats, and those special concierge perks. Here’s a deeper dive into what made this voyage truly unforgettable.

Starting Solo—The Journey Begins

The adventure kicked off on the Brightline train from Orlando to sunny Fort Lauderdale, where I enjoyed a stay at the Hotel Maren (a Hilton property). The location selection is key when sailing out of Port Everglades: staying by the beach offered walkable restaurant and activity options and serenity.

For future solo travelers, I suggest weighing the convenience of location versus cost, especially with added resort fees, and remembering you can often use points or loyalty perks to make your stay more affordable.

Riding BrightLine: A Modern Train Experience

Getting to the port set the tone for how smooth travel can be: I took the BrightLine train from Orlando, opting for the premium class. With convenient luggage services, a comfortable lounge, and snacks galore, the experience rivaled first-class rail travel elsewhere. Bonus tip: premium gets you a free Uber voucher in Fort Lauderdale; just remember to use it ASAP before it expires later that day.

BrightLine’s app-based meal delivery system is a solo travel game-changer—no more standing in café car lines. The train staff were friendly, and the space felt especially inviting for someone journeying alone. I especially appreciated the attentive service as a solo passenger and the ability to easily move from train to rideshare and on to my hotel.

The Disney Dream Concierge Upgrade: Is it Worth It?

Here’s where the trip took an exciting turn. I decided to splurge on a concierge stateroom—and the perks began before I even boarded. Despite a minor hiccup with a stateroom assignment, I landed in a delightful Deck 12 veranda stateroom, complete with complimentary stocked fridge, exclusive concierge lounge access, and a large balcony.

The new Hercules-themed concierge lounge was stunning, loaded with gourmet snacks, a specialty coffee machine, and rotating culinary treats throughout the day. The concierge sundeck was a peaceful haven when the ship’s public decks became crowded—a true sanctuary for unwinding, reading, or simply soaking in ocean views.

Early show access, character meet-ups, and a concierge escort off the ship made me feel genuinely valued. If you’re debating the value, the answer depends on your personal travel style. For me, the tranquility and service were well worth this solo indulgence.

Onboard Adventures: Spa, Trivia, & Making Connections

I full enjoyed the Senses Spa’s fire and ice pedicure, and the Rainforest Room was pure bliss.

Solo travel doesn’t mean isolation; trivia sessions and communal dining sparked new friendships. It was heartening to find other solo travelers as my table mates at dinner, and spontaneous invites to dinner at Palo underscored the open, welcoming spirit of cruising solo.

Instead of running around to every event, I followed my whims—sometimes skipping a show to watch from my stateroom, wandering the ship, or reading on the pool deck. That freedom is solo travel at its finest.

Island Days & Port Reflections

Castaway Cay dazzled as always, though the hunt for the perfect beach chair remains real! Lunch on the island was hit-and-miss, but the turquoise water and soft sand more than made up for it. Lookout Cay was cloudier and rainier, but I embraced the change of pace, opting for shipboard relaxation and a Marvel movie matinee.

Effortless debarkation (with concierge escorting us past the very long line!), easy customs courtesy of biometric scans, and a seamless BrightLine return wrapped up the trip perfectly.

Final Thoughts: Why I’ll Cruise Solo Again

My Disney Dream solo cruise delivered more than a relaxing escape—it reminded me how choosing yourself, following your pace, and opening up to new people can make travel truly magical.

For anyone considering a solo journey, especially on Disney Cruise Line, my advice is simple: take the leap. You’ll find adventure, connection, and so much more than you imagined—often in the most unexpected places.

Ready to set sail solo? Tune in to the full episode of Me and the Magic for more tips, stories, and inspiration! See you on the high seas!

The Rise of Solo Travel for Women: Empowerment, Exploration, and Experiences

Discover the Freedom and Confidence Found in Solo Journeys

Traveling solo is on the rise, and women are leading the charge. From personal growth to global exploration, more women are embracing the idea of traveling alone. Let’s delve into the key benefits, recent trends, and top destinations for solo female travelers.

The Benefits of Solo Travel for Women

Personal Growth
Solo travel is a profound experience that sparks personal growth. Think back to the first time you tackled a task alone; the sense of accomplishment and independence you felt. When a woman travels solo, she strengthens her ability to learn, adapt, and face challenges head-on. Each new city, culture, and experience is an opportunity to grow and gain confidence in her abilities.

Embracing Empowerment
While personal growth focuses inward, empowerment channels that energy outward. Traveling alone supports the development of self-assurance, enabling women to assert their rights, influence their surroundings, and achieve their goals. This outward display of confidence is not just about navigating new places but about becoming the decisive protagonist in one’s own life story.

Building Connections
Solo travel does not mean being alone. In fact, it opens up chances for meaningful interactions with locals and other travelers. Being the sole navigator on your journey means you’re more likely to engage in authentic conversations and create lasting connections. These interactions not only enrich your travel experiences but also help you see the world through diverse perspectives.

Why Solo Female Travel is Trending

Balancing Responsibilities and Self-Care
Many women juggle numerous responsibilities — from parenthood and household chores to careers and caring for aging parents. Solo travel offers a much-needed break, a chance to focus on oneself and practice self-care. As Samantha Brown articulates,

“There’s a key difference between rest and restoration… Restorative travel is when you physically, mentally, and emotionally take a break from your day to day life.”

Such travel allows for deep rejuvenation, going beyond rest from a full night’s sleep.

Post-Pandemic Wanderlust
The COVID pandemic significantly restricted travel, intensifying people’s desire to explore once restrictions were lifted. This rekindled wanderlust is especially evident in the rise of solo travel. Once denied the freedom to roam, many have vowed to seize every travel opportunity, including solo adventures.

Remote Work’s Role
The increase in remote and hybrid work environments has also facilitated solo travel. With the flexibility to work from anywhere, more women can blend work with travel, further encouraging the solo travel trend.

How Women Are Traveling Solo

Independent Adventures versus Group Travel
Younger women often prefer the freedom and flexibility of traveling entirely alone, allowing for spontaneous decisions and personalized itineraries. However, group travel is gaining popularity, especially among women over 50. Group tours offer a balance of social interaction and safety, providing a structured but enriching solo travel experience. Additionally, group travel often simplifies logistics, such as accommodation and excursions, making it an attractive option for seasoned and novice travelers alike.

Variety of Travel Modes
From cruises and road trips to plane, train, and automobile adventures, there’s no single way to travel solo. Women are exploring every mode of transportation, embracing the diversity of travel experiences, and making each journey uniquely their own.

Top Destinations for Solo Female Travelers

Safety First
When choosing destinations, safety is paramount. Research the laws, customs, and crime statistics of potential locations. For example, some places might not offer the same freedoms as your home country. Such diligence ensures not only a safe trip but a more enjoyable one.

Popular International Destinations
According to data, favorite countries for solo women travelers include Germany, Italy, Spain, the United Kingdom, France, the United States, Japan, and Australia. Cities like Lisbon, Milan, Tokyo, Paris, Warsaw, Madrid, London, Rome, Barcelona, and Berlin rank high in safety and popularity among solo women travelers.

Local Adventures
Interestingly, 3 out of 4 women prefer traveling solo within their own countries. This trend reflects a growing appreciation for local treasures and the relative ease of domestic travel.

Embrace Solo Travel

The rise of solo travel among women signifies a broader trend towards self-empowerment and exploration. Whether it’s to escape the daily grind, pursue personal growth, or simply see the world, solo travel offers countless benefits. Wherever you choose to travel solo, proper planning and safety precautions will ensure an amazing and transformative experience.

Join the community of solo female travelers and discover the world on your own terms. Adventure awaits, and so does a new, empowered you.

Episode Resources

SoloTravelerWorld.com has many great resources for solo travelers.

Read the full article “This Is Your Sign to Plan a Solo Wellness Vacation”, by Samatha Brown, published April 27, 2023.

Read the full U.S. News & World Report article from October 10, 2024: “Solo Travel for Women: 18 Best Trips (+Travel Tips)”, written by Sharael Kolberg.

Exploring the Magic: Solo Adventures at Walt Disney World

Solo travel can be an enriching and transformative experience, especially when visiting a magical destination like Walt Disney World. In Episode 154 of the Me and the Magic podcast, host Amanda Bauner and guest Matt Krul delve into the charm and practicality of solo trips, sharing insights from their personal adventures and providing useful tips for anyone considering a solo journey to the happiest place on Earth.

The Joy of Planning and Flexibility

Thoughtful Planning is Key

As emphasized by Matt, planning ahead is crucial for a successful Disney trip, especially if you’re a first-timer. Solo travelers should consider mixing both structured activities, like dining reservations, with flexible plans to allow for spontaneity without the stress of missing out on key experiences.

Embracing Flexibility

Amanda shared her personal experiences about adapting plans during trips, especially after falling ill during a visit. She highlighted how vital it is to keep your itinerary flexible, allowing you to adjust based on your personal preferences and circumstances. When traveling solo, technology becomes a handy tool not only to stay connected with family and friends but also to capture and share your magical moments.

Delight in the Experience

Being Present on Attractions

Both Amanda and Matt placed a strong emphasis on being in the moment during attractions. The dynamic nature of experiences, like the Kilimanjaro Safaris, offers unpredictable and exciting encounters that enrich your visit. They agreed that sometimes, rather than focusing on snapping photos and filming every moment, it’s more fulfilling to simply be present and enjoy the ride.

The Magic of Dining Alone

Dining solo can often present its own set of challenges, particularly when it comes to making reservations. Amanda mentioned the difficulty of securing single diner spots and suggested searching for larger party sizes for better availability. Both she and Matt found solo dining to be a calm and enjoyable experience, recommending favorite spots like Steakhouse 71, Toledo, and various lounges.

The Charm of Disney Resorts

Coronado Springs: An Encompassing Experience

Coronado Springs stood out in the discussion as a versatile and well-loved resort. Matt praised its extensive dining options and proximity to major parks like Animal Kingdom and Hollywood Studios. Amanda echoed his sentiments, mentioning the fun activities and the thorough amenities available. They both agreed on the affordability and the variety of room options that suit different budgets.

Choosing the Right Deluxe Resort

When it comes to choosing a deluxe resort, both Amanda and Matt shared their preferences and experiences. Matt leaned towards the Yacht Club for its serene environment and proximity to Epcot, while Amanda complemented this resort for its recent renovations and the excellent service at Ale & Compass restaurant.

They also touched on more budget-friendly options like the Swan and Dolphin, which, though deluxe Marriott properties, offer various discounts and the benefit of being able to use Marriott points.

Special Tours and Events

Behind-the-Scenes Magic

For those looking to dive deeper into the magic, both hosts recommended Disney’s guided tours. Amanda recounted her solo experience with the Keys of the Kingdom tour, which offers an insightful look into the history and operations behind Magic Kingdom. Matt endorsed this tour for those over 16 and shared his enthusiasm for other tours like the Wild Africa Trek.

Enjoying Disney Springs

Disney Springs was highlighted as a wonderful retreat from the crowds of the parks. The abundant dining, shopping, and entertainment options make it a versatile spot for solo travelers. Amanda recommended the Cirque du Soleil “Drawn to Life” show for solo travelers.

Embracing Solo Travel

The Freedom of Solo Exploration

One key benefit of solo travel is the freedom to explore at your own pace without needing to cater to others’ preferences. Both Amanda and Matt enjoyed the autonomy to pursue their own interests, whether that meant people-watching, taking impromptu photos, or even engaging in casual conversations with cast members.

Tips for Avoiding Loneliness

Matt and Amanda both offered practical tips for keeping loneliness at bay during solo trips. Keeping busy and maintaining a certain level of activity can help stave off feelings of isolation, especially if you’re used to traveling with companions.

In conclusion, solo travel to Walt Disney World offers a unique opportunity to experience the parks in a profoundly personal and rewarding way. Whether you’re meticulously planning your itinerary or allowing for spontaneous magic, there’s a treasure trove of experiences waiting to be uncovered. So pack your bags, embrace the adventure, and let the magic unfold.

Connect with Matthew Krul

Connect with Matthew Krul at Imagination Skyway, and listen to the Imagination Skyway podcast on the podcast player of your choice. 

Empowerment through Travel: A Conversation with Doni Belau

Exploring the World with Girls’ Guide to the World

In the latest episode of the Me and the Magic podcast, host Amanda Bauner talks with Doni Belau, founder of Girls’ Guide to the World, to discuss the empowering nature of travel for women. Their conversation touches on the importance of knowledgeable guides, the benefits of small group travel, the allure of specific travel destinations, and insights on traveling solo as a woman. Here’s what you can look forward to hearing in this enlightening episode.

Empowering Women through Travel

Doni Belau emphasizes the transformative power travel holds, especially for women. Doni’s organization, Girls’ Guide to the World, curates women-only tours designed to empower participants by providing authentic travel experiences. Doni explains that travel is an investment in wellness, not just a luxury. It contributes to a sense of fulfillment, mental well-being, and even longevity. By creating a supportive platform, her organization enables women to explore the world without feeling constricted by societal expectations.

Importance of Knowledgeable Guides

A key focus for Doni is ensuring that travelers are guided by individuals with a broad worldview and extensive local knowledge. Whether exploring the bustling streets of Mexico City or the serene landscapes of Namibia, having a guide who understands and appreciates the local culture enriches the experience. This approach goes beyond mere sightseeing; it involves deep engagement with the destination, from dining with a female chef in Slovenia to learning pottery in Japan’s Kyushu Peninsula.

Authentic Travel Experiences

For Doni, authentic travel means immersing oneself in the local culture and making meaningful connections with the people. She cites trips to destinations like Oaxaca, Mexico, and Zambia, where the focus is on unique, culturally immersive experiences rather than tourist-centric activities. Authentic travel also means being mindful of one’s impact, avoiding over-tourism by visiting less crowded places and times, and showing respect for the local environment and traditions.

Upcoming Trips with Girls’ Guide to the World

Doni shares exciting details about future trips with Girls’ Guide to the World, including mindfulness retreats in Maui, Hawaii, and holiday-themed journeys to Charleston, South Carolina. Her organization also plans unique wine-tasting tours in the fertile Willamette Valley of Oregon and the famed vineyards of Sonoma and Napa. Each trip caters to a small group, typically between six and ten participants, fostering a sense of community and closer connections among travelers.

Small Group Dynamics and Personal Safety

Amanda and Doni delve into the dynamics of small group travel, noting the advantages of intimate groups that ensure no one feels left out. This approach allows participants to form lasting friendships, with many returning for future trips. Small groups also make it easier to travel in comfort, like in luxurious Mercedes Sprinter vans, and stay in unique, locally-owned accommodations.

Safety is a primary concern for solo female travelers. Doni emphasizes that her tours are designed with safety in mind, using experienced local guides and focusing on destinations where infrastructure and support are robust. Moreover, the trips are open to English-speaking women over 21, promoting an inclusive yet secure environment.

Solo Travel as a Path to Empowerment

The statistics Doni shares are telling: 85% of the women who join Girls’ Guide to the World tours travel solo, with most participants being over 45 years old. Many are motivated by recent life changes, such as divorce or widowhood, and find traveling solo to be an empowering and life-affirming experience. The trend reflects a societal shift where traveling alone is not only accepted but encouraged as a form of personal growth.

Amanda echoes this sentiment, sharing her own ambitions to visit all 50 U.S. states and highlighting her dedication to meaningful, authentic travel.

Join Me and the Magic in Alaska in 2025!

As the episode draws to a close, Amanda invites listeners to consider joining the upcoming Me and the Magic group cruise to Alaska in July 2025. Set to sail on the Celebrity Edge from Seattle, this seven-night adventure promises spectacular scenery and shared experiences, reinforcing the message that travel, especially in an empowering community, is a journey worth taking.

Whether you’re a seasoned traveler or just starting, the insights shared by Amanda Bauner and Doni Belau remind us of the beauty, diversity, and empowerment that travel can offer.

Connect with Doni Belau

Connect with Doni Belau and Girls’ Guide to the World at the official website, as well as on Facebook, Instagram, and Pinterest.

Embrace the Magic on Your Own Terms

Embarking on a trip to Disneyland on your own can be as magical, if not more, than traveling with companions. The freedom to navigate the park at your own pace, explore attractions that specifically interest you, and savor culinary delights without compromise is an invigorating experience. In this episode, we dive into the tips, tricks, and unique opportunities that solo Disneyland travel offers. Joined by guests Christine Wallain and Jen Schoen, we discussed how to make the most of a solo Disneyland adventure. Here’s a comprehensive guide drawn from our conversation.

Why Go to Disneyland Solo?

Ultimate Freedom and Flexibility
One of the greatest advantages of solo travel is the freedom to do what you want when you want. Christine highlighted this in our discussion, noting that solo travels allow for spontaneous decisions, whether that means revisiting a favorite attraction or indulging in an unexpected snack.

Efficient Touring
Jen emphasized that solo travelers can maneuver the parks more efficiently. Walking through crowds, finding single rider slots, and securing last-minute dining reservations become easier when you’re only planning for one. Both guests pointed out that Disneyland, with its smaller size compared to Disney World, enhances this efficiency.

Dining Delights for One

Flexible Dining Options
Dining solo at Disneyland offers a wide range of options. It’s easier to snag a seating reservation for one, and you can fully enjoy dining at both quick service and table service restaurants. Jen shared her preference for a mix of both, noting that Disneyland’s quick service options often exceed those at Disney World, giving solo travelers delicious and flexible choices.

Solo Reservation Tip
A handy tip mentioned in the podcast is to book dining for a party of 2 or 4 even if you’re going solo. This sometimes yields better reservation results, avoiding the often limited availability for single reservations.

Grand Californian’s Hearthstone Lounge
Unlike many Disney World hotel lounges, Hearthstone Lounge at the Grand Californian allows reservations. This presents a unique dining opportunity, offering a cozy environment perfect for solo travelers to unwind.

Navigating the Parks Alone

Single Rider Lines and Efficiency
Disneyland’s plethora of single rider lines make it a haven for solo visitors. Rides like the Incredicoaster, Radiator Springs Racers, and Millennium Falcon: Smugglers Run have dedicated single rider lines, allowing solo adventurers to skip the longer wait times – a major plus,

Embracing the Local Culture
Amanda pointed out that Disneyland is a local favorite, with frequent visitors often staking out prime spots early for entertainment. While it can be challenging to find space for parades or shows, the environment is welcoming for solo travelers, especially in less crowded areas like the Animation Academy and Trader Sam’s Enchanted Tiki Bar.

Special Events and Solo Experiences

World of Color and Halloween Festivities
The podcast highlighted special events like the World of Color dessert party, which Jen praised. Although closed currently, the World of Color promises a unique experience for solo travelers once it reopens. Amanda eagerly anticipates Halloween Screams and the Oogie Boogie Bash, comparing it to Walt Disney World’s Mickey’s Not So Scary Halloween Party.

Tours and VIP Experiences
Amanda shared her enthusiasm for tour options at Disneyland, such as visiting Walt’s apartment. These experiences forge deeper connections with Disney history and magic, even more so during solo travels where you can soak in every detail.

Tips for Making the Most of Your Solo Trip

Plan but Stay Flexible
Jen and Christine both advised that while some planning is necessary, flexibility is key. From changing dining plans to unexpected weather, being adaptable ensures a smoother experience. They recommended checking attraction schedules in advance and preparing for various weather conditions – even in traditionally warm Anaheim.

Three-Day Itinerary
For first-time solo travelers to Disneyland, a three-day itinerary is typically ideal. One day for each park—Disneyland and Disney California Adventure—and a third day to revisit favorite rides or just casually explore, as proposed by Amanda.

Connect with the Community and our Guests

Stay Updated and Inspired
Amanda encourages listeners and readers alike to join the Me and the Magic community. Staying connected on social media platforms like Facebook and Instagram offers a venue for sharing solo travel experiences, tips, and updates.

Connect with Jen Schoen and learn more about FirstGen FM on the official website. Jen is also on Instagram at FirstGenFM. Jen also hosts the FirstGen FM podcast, listen here. Email Jen at je*@********fm.com. 

Connect with Christine Wallain on Instagram and Facebook. 

Solo travel to Disneyland is a magical adventure filled with unique perks and opportunities. Whether it’s efficiently navigating single rider lines, enjoying flexible dining options, or indulging in spontaneous activities, the solo experience in the park is not to be missed. Embrace the magic on your own terms and discover just how enchanting a solo trip to Disneyland can be.

Learn about what it’s like to be a digital nomad, traveling around the world, in this latest episode of Me and the Magic! Host Amanda Bauner and our inspiring guest, musician and artist Catherine Gairard, share their passion for exploring new horizons both physically and spiritually.

3 Key Takeaways for Digital Nomads

• Trust Your Instincts: Catherine emphasizes the importance of staying present, trusting your intuition, and maintaining positive energy to ensure safety while traveling solo, especially for women.
• Embrace Cultural Exchange: We delve into the interconnectedness of food, music, and dance as reflections of diverse cultures. Learning from and respecting different perspectives can enrich your understanding of the world.
• Manifest Your Dreams: Catherine opens up about how aligning with her higher self and manifesting opportunities has enabled her to live the digital nomad lifestyle, advising listeners to evaluate their skills for online work and create the life they envision.

Join us as we discuss self-growth through travel, from Cozumel’s green ray phenomenon to the historical splendor of Athens’ Parthenon. Stay inspired and keep dreaming! 

Connect with Catherine on Instagram, and check out Catherine’s YouTube channel for her music.

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Why attend a music festival solo?

How do you feel when you attend a concert? Last weekend, I saw Idina Menzel in concert. I of course know her Broadway hits and Disney’s Frozen songs well, but I don’t know her original songs well. Plus, she sang some covers, which I always enjoy. I felt connected to her and the audience, as we experienced this event together as a community. I felt inspired by her artistry, as well as the artistry of her band, the set decorations, and the costume designs. I felt like it was a celebration of her work, of Broadway, and of Disney. I left that concert feeling high on life! 

For that concert, I was by myself for the VIP experience, which consisted of watching a soundcheck by Idina and her band, and then a Q&A with Idina and a group photo. I did not feel at all awkward being alone for that. And then a friend joined me for the concert itself. But I’ve been to many concerts solo. I know that the idea of attending a concert or a music festival alone might seem daunting, but I believe that it can be one of the most liberating and rewarding experiences you’ll ever have. Let’s talk about the benefits of attending a music festival by yourself. 

Rediscover Your Independence

We often find ourselves caught up in the daily responsibilities of life. Solo adventures offer a refreshing break. Attending a concert or music festival alone allows you to reclaim your independence. You can make decisions without compromising or considering someone else’s preferences. Do you want to stand right at the front and dance your heart out? Go for it! Or maybe you prefer to sit back and soak in the music from a distance. You get to decide! This sense of freedom is empowering and reminds you of your ability to navigate the world on your own terms.

Connect with Your True Self

Music has this unique way of touching our souls and evoking deep emotions. I’ve seen people who usually aren’t very emotional suddenly well up while listening to music. When you attend a concert or a festival alone, you have the opportunity to connect with these emotions without any external distractions. You can fully immerse yourself in the experience, letting the music guide your thoughts and feelings. This can be a profoundly introspective journey, offering you a chance to reflect, relax, and recharge. It’s an opportunity to reconnect with your inner self, and that fosters personal growth and self-awareness.

Embrace New Social Opportunities

One of the most beautiful aspects of attending concerts and festivals alone is the potential for new social interactions. When you’re by yourself, you’re more approachable and open to meeting new people. Concerts and festivals bring together like-minded individuals who share a love for the same music, creating an ideal environment for making new friends. Whether it’s striking up a conversation with a fellow fan in line or bonding with someone over your favorite song, these spontaneous connections can lead to lasting friendships and unforgettable memories.

Build Confidence and Self-Reliance

Navigating a concert or festival solo can be a confidence-boosting experience. From planning your trip and managing your schedule to finding your way around the venue, each step reinforces your ability to handle things independently. This newfound confidence extends beyond the event itself, positively impacting other areas of your life. You’ll find yourself more willing to take on challenges and less afraid to step out of your comfort zone.

I really experienced this confidence boost when I took the trip at the age of 24 from Indianapolis to Los Angeles. Not only did I see Barbra Streisand in concert, but I took advantage of my first trip to LA by going on a city tour and exploring Santa Monica’s shops and beach near where I was staying. Keep in mind this was before the days of Google maps, Uber and Lyft! I was proud of myself for planning and navigating around LA by myself, and that was the start of my solo travels. Looking back, I can see now that taking that trip gave me the confidence to make the move just a few years later to New York City.

Enjoy the Ultimate Flexibility

When you attend a concert or festival with others, at some point you’re going to have to compromise. Going solo means you’re in complete control of your experience. Want to arrive early and catch every opening act? You can. Feel like taking a break and grabbing some food or merchandise? No problem. By attending alone, you have the flexibility to create an experience tailored entirely to your preferences. This level of autonomy enhances your enjoyment and ensures that your day or night unfolds exactly as you envision it.

As a music lover and frequent concert-goer, I know that most artists will do an encore, and that often that’s when the most popular songs are performed. When I was younger and I’d go to Deer Creek Music Center in Indiana for concerts, sometimes the people who I went with wanted to beat the traffic and leave before the encore. It always bummed me out! So, to this day, I love staying for the encore. When I’m solo, there’s no reason for me to be in a hurry at all after the show. I love that freedom and flexibility that going solo to a show offers me. 

Safety Tips for Solo Music Festival Goers

Here are some detailed safety tips to help you stay secure and make the most of your solo festival experience.

Plan Ahead

Plan how you will be arriving to and leaving the venue. I find it helpful to read reviews of venues, especially if I’m going to take a car service, to find out where it can drop me off at the venue, what to expect about traffic, and especially how to find a ride share in a long line after a show.

Also, be sure to check the venue rules for security. Some venues have a maximum size of bag to bring in. Some venues require clear bags. 

Be Aware of Your Surroundings

Stay alert. Keep your senses sharp and be aware of the people and activities around you.

Also, know the layout of the venue. Familiarize yourself with the festival map, including the locations of exits, restrooms, medical tents, and security posts.

Stay Connected

Share your plans with a friend or family member and check in periodically via phone or text. Share your festival itinerary, where you’ll be staying, and any travel details. Carry a fully charged phone and a portable charger.

Travel Light

Bring only essentials, and keep your belongings secure in a crossbody bag to best protect them. Avoid openly displaying any valuable items like expensive jewelry or large amounts of cash.

Trust Your Instincts

If something feels off, trust your gut and remove yourself from the situation. Don’t hesitate to ask for help from event staff or security if you feel unsafe or need assistance. That’s their job!

Personal Safety Gear

Wear a whistle. A small, loud whistle can be used to attract attention in an emergency. Also, have a way to see clearly when walking in darker areas, which often happens at festivals that go late into the night or where you stay overnight. A flashlight or headlamp is essential for navigating in the dark and can also signal for help if needed. Don’t rely on the flashlight on your phone. For one, it’s not that powerful to see a far distance, and what happens if your phone dies?

Stay Hydrated and Nourished

Drink plenty of water. Dehydration can make you more vulnerable to accidents and illnesses. Carry a refillable water bottle and use the festival’s hydration stations. Also, make sure that you eat regularly. Keep your energy levels up with regular meals and snacks.

Be Cautious with Alcohol and Substances

This one is important. Know your limits. It’s great to enjoy yourself, but avoid drinking excessively or substance use that can impair your judgment and reaction times. If you are drinking, whether it’s alcoholic or non-alcoholic, watch your drink. Never leave your drink unattended and avoid accepting drinks from strangers.

Solo Camping Safety

If you are camping overnight at the festival, choose a safe spot. Set up your tent in a well-lit, populated area. Avoid secluded spots. Also, lock your tent. Use a small padlock to secure your tent when you’re not inside.

Be Prepared

Carry an emergency kit. Yes, festivals have medical tents and services, but they may not be open 24/7. Have essentials on hand like a first aid kit, a portable phone charger, and any necessary medications. Also, know emergency procedures of the venue. Familiarize yourself with the festival’s emergency protocols and exits. When I was at the Idina concert at the Dr. Phillips Center downtown, we were under a tornado watch from a tropical storm. I didn’t know what their emergency protocols were if we had a tornado warning, and I should’ve looked them up beforehand. I also blame the movie “Twisters” for this paranoia (go see it, great movie), but it’s good to be prepared for anything.

Engage with the Community

This is a fun tip. Make friends! Befriend your camping neighbors and fellow festival-goers. Having friendly faces around can enhance your safety. Also, nearly every music festival and every band or artist now has online groups and accounts. Join those online communities where you can connect with other people going to the concert or festival and share tips.

Medical and Health Safety

Carry a card with important medical information, including allergies and emergency contacts. And do everything you can to stay healthy, so you can enjoy the festival experience to the fullest. 

Practice good hygiene, use hand sanitizer, and take breaks to rest and avoid burnout.

Navigating Crowds

In crowded situations, stay calm and move with the flow of people. Always be aware of the nearest exits and have a plan to reach them if necessary.

Follow these safety tips to navigate a festival solo with confidence. Remember that your safety is paramount, so take the necessary precautions to ensure a secure and enjoyable experience. Embrace the freedom and excitement of solo festival-going, knowing you’ve taken the steps to protect yourself and have an unforgettable adventure.

Best Music Festivals to Attend Solo

Attending a festival solo can be an exhilarating and empowering adventure. Here’s a list of some of the best solo festivals that are not only safe but also offer a vibrant and welcoming atmosphere for solo travelers. Each of these festivals provides a unique cultural experience, making them perfect for solo adventurers looking to immerse themselves in music, arts, and community.

Coachella Valley Music and Arts Festival – Indio, California, USA

Coachella is one of the most famous music festivals in the world, known for its diverse lineup, stunning art installations, and celebrity sightings. The festival attracts a friendly and open-minded crowd, making it easy to meet new people. With plenty of on-site amenities and activities, it’s a fantastic option for solo travelers. In 2024, the lineup at Coachella included Lana Del Rey, Doja Cat, Chappell Roan, the Deftones, and many more. In 2025, Coachella will be held April 11-13 and 18-20. There’s a waitlist for passes and all kinds of great info at Coachella.com. 

Glastonbury Festival – Somerset, England

Glastonbury is a legendary festival that offers a truly immersive experience. Known for its eclectic lineup and vibrant atmosphere, it’s a great place to explore on your own. The festival’s extensive site features various stages, art installations, workshops, and markets, providing endless opportunities for solo adventurers to engage and enjoy. The lineup is extremely impressive, including a Sunday legends spot that in 2024 featured Sheryl Crow. The three headlining acts in 2024 were Dua Lipa, Coldplay, and SZA, and also performing were Cyndi Lauper, Avril Lavigne, Paul McCartney, PJ Harvey, Fleetwood Mac, and many more talented musicians. The Glastonbury Festival will be held June 25-29, 2025.

SXSW (South by Southwest) – Austin, Texas, USA

SXSW is a unique blend of music, film, and interactive media, attracting creative minds from around the globe. The festival takes over the city of Austin, offering many opportunities to network and meet like-minded individuals. With a wide range of events, panels, and performances, you’ll never run out of things to do and people to meet.

I’ve been to Texas, but I’ve always wanted to visit Austin, so SXSW in March 2025 may be the perfect time to go. I love the huge blend of artistry on display here. One year, author Brene Brown interviewed Brett Goldstein, best known for playing Roy Kent on the TV series “Ted Lasso”. The music festival showcases artists and bands who may not have made it big yet, which I love because it’s so fun to discover new talent in a live setting like that. And then they’ll have well-known musicians, like The Black Keys in 2024. So I’m excited to see who all will be performing there in 2025. 

Tomorrowland – Boom, Belgium

Tomorrowland is one of the biggest electronic dance music festivals in the world. Its vibrant and energetic atmosphere is perfect for solo travelers who love to dance and immerse themselves in the music. The festival’s sense of community and shared love for EDM makes it easy to connect with fellow festival-goers from all over the world. This festival is typically held every July. There are also a couple of offshoot festivals – Tomorrowland Winter will be in Alpe D’Huez in March 2025, and Tomorrowland Brasil will be in Sao Paolo in October 2024.

Edinburgh Festival Fringe – Edinburgh, Scotland

The Edinburgh Festival Fringe is the world’s largest arts festival, featuring thousands of performances across various genres. As a solo traveler, you’ll have the freedom to explore countless shows, ranging from comedy and theater to dance and music. The welcoming and inclusive nature of the festival ensures that you’ll feel comfortable striking up conversations and making new friends. The festival is actually happening right now, August 2nd through the 26th this year. 

As an example of the vast amount of performers at this festival, I did a search on the website for comedy acts. This year, there are 162 comedy performances at the festival. That is amazing! And I really like all the info provided on the website. For each performance, you can see the anticipated length of the performance, if the venue is accessible (including if there are wheelchair accessible toilets), and who the performance is suitable for (18+ for the comedic act I was looking at).

Lollapalooza – Chicago, Illinois, USA

Lollapalooza is a major music festival that takes place in Chicago’s Grant Park. With its diverse lineup and multiple stages, it’s a great destination for solo travelers. The festival’s urban setting means you can easily explore the city’s attractions and dining scene in between sets, making for a well-rounded solo adventure. This event just happened, August 1st through the 4th. The dates for 2025 haven’t been set yet. Performers this year included Megan Thee Stallion, Hozier, SZA, The Killers, and Blink-182. 

Shambhala Music Festival – Salmo River Ranch, British Columbia, Canada

Shambhala is a unique festival known for its stunning natural setting and tight-knit community. The festival focuses on electronic music and features six themed stages, each offering a different experience. The friendly and inclusive atmosphere makes it easy to connect with others, and the emphasis on wellness and sustainability adds an extra layer of depth to the experience.

This festival also just recently occurred in July 2024. There is a waitlist if you’re interested in 2025 tickets. There is a lodge and campsites for overnight stays. 

Girls Just Wanna Weekend – Barceló Maya Resort, Mexico

I first heard about this music festival on the We Can Do Hard Things podcast, which I love and highly recommend. Musician Brandi Carlisle organizes and headlines this music festival that is at the all-inclusive Barcelo Maya Resort. What’s really appealing to me is that it appears to be very well organized. You fly into Cancun, and then you worry about nothing else – a shuttle is already arranged to take you to the resort. There are various levels of packages to choose from, including different parts of the resort to stay in. One package includes a stay in an adults-only part of the resort. There are all kinds of activities, including morning yoga, workshops, lip sync contests, karaoke hosted by Brandi Carlisle, craft beer tastings, sports and games. 

And you may have guessed from the name – it’s all female artists, so it sounds very much like Lilith Fair, which I loved. The lineup for Girls Just Wanna Weekend 5 in January 2024 included Brandi Carlisle, Janelle Monae, Sarah McLachlan, Allison Russell, KT Tunstall, Brandy Clark, Mary Chapin Carpenter, Tish Melton, and many more artists.

Girls Just Wanna Weekend 6 will be January 16-20, 2025, and packages are available now to purchase. 

That is just a sampling of the many music festivals that take place around the world. I found a great website called Music Festival Wizard, where you can search by location, month, music genre, and more for the music festival that best fits your wants and needs. 

Essential Packing Tips for Solo Music Festival Goers

Preparing for a solo festival adventure requires thoughtful planning to ensure you have everything you need while staying comfortable and safe. Here are some essential packing tips to help you make the most of your solo festival experience. Also, be sure to go to the article related to this episode on MeAndTheMagic.com to find links to some of my favorite items, that you may want to buy for yourself or as a gift for someone you know who is planning to go to a festival soon. 

A few general tips to start:

• Review the festival’s guidelines and prohibited items list to avoid packing anything that won’t be allowed.
• Before any trip, I check the typical monthly forecast on Accuweather.com to help me plan what to pack. Do this early so you can buy anything ahead of your trip. And then as the trip gets closer, I start checking the forecast 10 days before I’m going to leave, and I adjust my packing list accordingly.

Pack Light but Smart

Traveling solo means you’re responsible for all your belongings, so packing light is crucial. Focus on essentials and versatile items to minimize your load. Choose a sturdy, comfortable backpack or duffel bag with multiple compartments for easy organization. Also, use packing cubes or ziplock bags to keep your items organized and easily accessible.

Also bring a daypack, which is a small, lightweight backpack for carrying daily essentials like water, snacks, sunglasses, and your phone.

Clothing Essentials

Festival weather can be unpredictable, so pack clothing that can be layered and is suitable for various conditions. Wear comfortable clothing. Lightweight, breathable fabrics are ideal. Pack a mix of shorts, leggings and other long pants, and t-shirts. Bring a hoodie or light jacket for cooler evenings and early mornings. Many festivals are outdoor venues or at least have you walking outside between the different stages and offerings, so a compact rain jacket or poncho is essential in case of unexpected showers. And speaking of walking, comfortable, broken-in shoes are a must. Consider packing a pair of waterproof boots and flip-flops for shared showers. And don’t forget about accessories. A hat, sunglasses, and a bandana or scarf can provide extra protection from the sun and dust.

Personal Care Items

Keeping clean and comfortable is key to enjoying your festival experience. Pack travel toiletries, like you would for any trip, including toothbrush, toothpaste, soap, and deodorant. You’ll likely be outside a fair amount, so you’ll need high SPF sunscreen (I love this stick sunscreen) and lip balm to protect against sunburn. Wet wipes are great for quick clean-ups and freshening up. Hand sanitizer is always handy to keep your hands clean when soap and water aren’t available. And be sure to pack a first aid kit, including Band-aids, antiseptic wipes, pain relievers, any necessary prescription medications, and blister treatment.

Camping Gear

If you’re camping at the festival (bless you, you brave person you), bring gear that will help you have a comfortable and safe stay.

• Tent: A lightweight, easy-to-assemble tent with a rainfly.
• Sleeping Bag: Choose one appropriate for the climate.
• Sleeping Pad or Air Mattress: For added comfort and insulation from the ground.
• Camping Chair: A compact, foldable chair for relaxation.
• Headlamp or Flashlight: With extra batteries for navigating the campsite at night.

Food and Drink

Staying nourished and hydrated is vital for maintaining your energy levels. I take a reusable water bottle or a stainless steel tumbler, like a Yeti, with me pretty much wherever I go. Many festivals have water refill stations, so take advantage of those so you don’t have to pay for bottled water. Non-perishable snacks are a must to pack and have with you, like trail mix, protein bars, and dried fruit. If you are bringing perishable food, a small cooler with ice packs can keep items fresh.

Tech and Gadgets

During your festival experience, you’ll want to stay connected, for both fun and safety. And you’ll want to capture your memories to document and share later on. Keep your phone charged with a portable charger or a power bank, and don’t forget the charging cord as well. If you’re into photography, a compact camera can capture high-quality shots. 

The older I get, the more I want to protect my hearing. But it’s important to start at any age. Even during the Idina concert, my Apple watch kept pinging to tell me that I was in a loud environment, and my ears were definitely ringing after the show. Bring earplugs or earmuffs to protect your hearing during loud performances and block out noise when sleeping.

Lastly, a small, versatile tool (like this one that’s a wrench, pliers, wire cutter, flat screwdriver, Phillips head screwdriver, and knife) can come in handy for various tasks. 

Safety and Security

Ensuring your safety and the security of your belongings is extremely important. Keep your identification, festival tickets, and any passes in a secure, waterproof pouch. Bring a mix of cash and credit cards. Store them in a safe place, and perhaps not all in the same location. Bring a small lock for your tent or bag to add an extra layer of security. Lastly, have a list of emergency contacts and important phone numbers. I suggest printing this out in case your phone dies or you’re somewhere with poor cell service and no Wifi. 

Entertainment and Extras

A few extra items can enhance your festival experience.

• Notebook and Pen: Write down memories, schedules, or new friends’ contact details.
• Costumes and Accessories: Festivals are a great time to express yourself creatively. Have fun with this! 
• Blanket or Tarp: For sitting on the ground and creating a comfortable space.

By following these packing tips, you’ll be well-prepared for a solo festival adventure. With the right gear and a positive attitude, you’re sure to have an unforgettable experience. Enjoy the music, the atmosphere, and the freedom that comes with exploring a festival on your own!

Final Thoughts

Attending a concert or music festival alone can be a transformative experience. It’s a chance to celebrate your independence, connect with your true self, meet new people, and build confidence. While stepping out solo may feel intimidating at first, the rewards far outweigh any initial apprehension. So, buy that ticket, embrace the adventure, and let the music guide you on a journey of self-discovery and joy.

Welcome to “Me and the Magic,” the podcast where we empower solo travelers and share inspirational journeys and practical tips! In today’s episode, host Amanda Bauner sits down with the incredible Dr. Mary Beth McCabe, also known as Doctor Mary Travelbest. With decades of solo travel experience under her belt, Mary Beth brings a wealth of knowledge specifically tailored for women venturing out on their own.

We’ll dive into essential safety tips—like the use of VPNs, privacy screens, and eSIMs, and the importance of knowing your emergency contacts and registering with consulates. Mary Beth also has thrilling tales of her 90-day globe-trotting adventure in 2023, and she shares her travel aspirations for the next year that involve visiting multiple continents.

Whether you’re curious about solo travel or looking for seasoned advice, Mary Beth’s insights on maintaining safety, managing travel logistics, and embracing small “micro-adventures” will inspire you. Tune in to hear about her unique cultural exchanges, utilizing organizations like Servas, and the influence of AI tools in modern travel planning. Don’t miss this engaging and informative conversation aimed at making your solo travel dreams a reality!

Solo Travel Resources

New to solo travel? Listen to this Episode 101 on Solo Travel 101.

Want more solo travel tips for traveling around the world? Listen to Episode 136 about Global Solo Travel Tips.

If safety is a concern for you about traveling solo, here are Amanda’s Top 10 Safety Tips for Solo Travelers.

And if you’re concerned about feeling lonely when you travel solo, listen to Episode 077 for Amanda’s Top 10 Tips to Travel Solo without Feeling Lonely.

Meet Dr. Mary Travelbest

Mary Beth McCabe (AKA Dr. Mary Travelbest), in her teenage years, navigated a transformative summer in New York City, fueled by early independence and a thirst for adventure. Convincing her parents to permit an extended stay in the bustling metropolis, she spent the summer visiting friends and immersing herself in the city’s vibrant culture. In an evocative memory from the pre-cell phone era, she recalls the courage it took to walk up to the gate at the world’s busiest airport, buy a ticket with cash, and embark on the journey alone. This formative experience, which involved managing her own travel logistics and exploring the urban landscape, served as a significant milestone in her journey towards becoming an independent and resourceful individual. Now the author of multiple books aimed at guiding women to travel solo, Dr. Mary Travelbest travels the world and shares her adventures in her podcast.

Connect with Dr. Mary Travelbest on her website, and listen to her podcast. You can also find Dr. Mary Travelbest on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube.

In this heartfelt episode, Amanda Bauner explores why people might try to discourage your travel goals and how best to react to them. 

In the last episode 138, I gave the top 10 reasons to travel now. I truly believe that travel is magical, and solo travel increases that magic, partly because you learn so much about yourself.

Hans Christian Andersen once said, “To travel is to live.” And I think that is very true. I can’t imagine my life without traveling, or without my dreams of where all I want to travel still in this wonderful world of ours. Part of my mission is to not only encourage you to dream about your next travels, but to make those travel dreams and goals a reality. 

There have been some times in my life when I’ve shared my travel dreams and goals with others, and they have been less than supportive, and sometimes downright against me traveling. Have you ever had that happen? It certainly doesn’t feel good, even if you tell yourself that you’ll ignore or dismiss the naysayers and do it anyway.

I’m a big fan of not allowing anyone to dissuade you from going after your goals, travel or otherwise. So today, I’m sharing what I’ve learned over many years, through my own experiences, personal development, therapy, and self-discovery. And I’ll share some input from others as well. Yes, it’s another vulnerable sharing episode, so buckle up as we talk about why it is that people try to keep you from your goals and how best to react.

I’m talking here specifically about travel goals, but this can also be applied to any number of goals. 

There are several reasons why people may not want you to make your travel goals and dreams a reality.

They are scared of the unknown.

Many people are simply scared of the unknown. If your cousin has never been to Japan, and you are planning a trip, they may express concern and apprehension to you. You may have some friends or family who simply don’t understand why you want to sail around the world, or even why you want to take a solo trip to Walt Disney World.

Whatever it is that you’re wanting to do, they can’t relate to it, and that alone scares them. Plus, it may scare them that you have these big goals and dream to begin with, because once you make your first big dream a reality, what’s the next big goal on your list? Their minds may spiral from unfounded worry of what the future holds, which actually no one can predict. They will likely share their opinions with you, even worst-case scenarios. 

When I attended the Social Media Marketing World conference in San Diego in March 2023, I sat at a table with others in the travel industry. It happened to be all women, of different ages but mostly younger than me. Most of them were not entrepreneurs but instead worked for visitors bureaus or convention centers.

When we talked about how we all came alone to San Diego for this conference, nearly all of them said that their friends and family expressed concern and worry that they were going to a big city, far away from home, by themselves. Some of them had dismissed their loved ones’ concerns, while others said they had to go because it was for a work trip.

It showed me how even these travel professionals were dealing with the naysayers for traveling, doing the very thing that they are employed to encourage others to do. Wow.

They are concerned for your safety.

This is a pretty common reason why you’ll hear objections to travels, especially solo travel and especially if you’re a woman traveling alone. 

If you watch the news, then you’re likely to see a lot of reasons to be afraid out in the world. The truth is that crime can happen anywhere, and that anyone can be a criminal. Nowhere is 100% safe, but of course we can take steps to be safer. Related to that, check out my Top 10 Safety Tips for Solo Travelers. 

So when your aunt says you’re going to be in danger when you go to New York City, do some research. Stay at a hotel in a neighborhood that’s not too remote. Take other steps to be safe. And also, tell your aunt that you appreciate her concern and that you are prepared.

They are afraid of losing you.  

No, I don’t mean that they are afraid that you’ll die, although certainly our friends and family want us to be safe, as I just discussed. What I mean is that some people fear that their loved ones will change after traveling, and that scares them. They are afraid of losing you because you’ll be different in some way.

If they relate to you in a certain way, it could be that they don’t want to see that part of you change because it means you will be separate from them. Of course, you are separate from them, but sometimes friends and family see you as one unit and resist anything that creates differences between you. 

I knew a woman in college that took a trip to London, and on the flight, she sat next to a man. They started talking, it was a long flight. They really hit it off, and eventually they got married. Talk about a life-changing flight! She moved to England, so that travel really did create a form of separation between her and her friends and family in the U.S.

But can you imagine if she hadn’t taken that trip? She never would’ve met the love of her life!

They don’t believe they could do it themselves.  

When you share with your dad that you want to learn how to scuba dive so you can go on diving trips, and he scoffs, it may be because deep down, he doesn’t believe that he could do that. Psychologically, it’s hard for some people to believe that someone else, especially someone very close to them, can do something when they don’t believe that they could actually do it themselves.

So what do they do? They try to reason with you and tell you to be realistic. They point out all the reasons why you can’t or shouldn’t do it. 

Maybe you want to take a really long trip, so long that you are willing to take a leave of absence or even to quit your job so you can travel. I imagine that some loved ones, especially from older generations, will have a hard time understanding this. Older generations tended to work for the same company for their entire career.

Do you know anyone these days who has worked for the same company for their whole career? It’s a rarity these days. Plus, hybrid work is now here to stay for many industries, giving people more flexibility to travel as they combine both work and pleasure into trips. This is another major change from the typical 9-5 desk jobs of the past, always being in the office.

It may be challenging for people who are no longer working to understand how you’ll be able to both travel and work, or how you can safely take a break from your job, since it was never a possibility for them.

They don’t want to feel left behind.  

I think more than any other reason, this one goes along with solo travel the most. I took my first major solo vacation when I was 24 years old, to Los Angeles, California, to see Barbra Streisand in concert. I didn’t ask anyone to go with me, probably because I didn’t think anyone else would pay all that money to travel from Indiana to California to see Barbra in concert.

Also, I felt a high level of excitement and anticipation, making this big trip by myself, to a place I’d never been before. I started telling people that I was going to make this trip alone. Most people, even if they didn’t necessarily understand why it was so important to me to go (and that’s a whole other story, why I love Barbra Streisand so much), they supported me and even cheered me on, and said they were proud of me.

But a couple of people closest to me really did not want me to go. They were afraid for my safety, they said it was going to cost too much money… they had all kinds of reasons why they didn’t want me to go. But I went anyway, of course. And some time after that trip, one of those people then said to me, “How come you never asked me to go with you?” Wow.

So that’s what it was really about. I don’t even know if that person was conscious of why they were trying to get me not to go, but it became very obvious to me after they asked me that question. They didn’t want me to go without them, to leave them behind, to have this exciting experience and adventure without them.

I talked in many previous episodes about how as solo travelers, we can’t always wait for the stars to align for others to go on trips with us. Whether it’s budgets, scheduling conflicts, or other reasons, I know from experience that it can be really frustrating to put your travel dreams on hold and wait for the time to be right for others.

And also, we are not mind readers, unless you’re psychic… I know I’m not. If this person in my life had wanted to go with me, they needed to tell me that before the trip instead of telling me all these reasons I shouldn’t go that honestly really upset me. So, if someone is protesting you going somewhere, it may be because they feel left behind or want to be asked to go.

And that doesn’t mean you have to ask them to go with you, but it’s good to be aware that it’s a possibility as to why they are reacting that way.

They don’t want to be reminded of their own regrets.  

I recently shared with some loved ones my big travel goal for next year. If you missed me sharing that goal in Episode 133, my travel goal is to visit all 50 states in the US in my 50th year on this Earth, since I turn 50 in September 2025. Yes, it’s a somewhat daunting goal, but I also think it’s very doable… I am still figuring out exactly how I’ll do it, and that’s okay.

I’ve been to 32 states, and when I first share my goal, some people assume that I’m only going to the other 18 states to finish out the 50 states. No, my goal is to spend at least one night in each of the 50 states, plus Washington, D.C., within a year. When I shared this goal with two loved ones, they immediately started pointing out why this is an impossible goal, saying it’s not logical, it’s not realistic.

I paid attention to their thought patterns as they processed this goal, and it was fascinating to watch… they each started recollecting the different states that they’ve visited, even wanting to pull out a map to add them all up. They started sharing stories from their past travels. Then they went back to how it would be much more sensible for me to just concentrate on the 18 states I haven’t yet visited, and they asked how I’m going to pay for this, how much time it will take, all those types of questions about logistics.

But as they continued to talk about their past travels, I got the sense that they were feeling some regrets about not traveling more, or traveling for work and not as much for pleasure. So I was able to feel some compassion for them, and also… I’m not going to let their doubts dissuade me from figuring out how to achieve my travel goals for next year.

Now it’s your turn to respond to the naysayers. Here are some options.

“I know what I’m doing.”

It never hurts to reassure others that you do, in fact, know what you’re doing. Whether it’s your first or fifteenth solo trip, it’s helpful to share with them how prepared you are, research you’ve done, and details about your trip. How much you choose to share is completely your call. I find it helpful to provide the emergency contact phone number when I sail on a cruise ship, for example. 

“I’m not you.”

Some people may have had bad experiences themselves traveling alone, or going to a certain area. They may be passing those fears on to you, without even realizing it. A gentle reminder to them that you are your own person, who (going back to the last point) knows what you’re doing, can help someone settle their fears. It also creates a healthy boundary, because by telling them that you are not them, you are showing that you are unwilling to take on their fears and doubts that they are trying to transfer to you.

When the naysayer is objecting to you wanting to do something because deep down, they don’t believe that they could do it, here’s how I’d respond. I’d say, “I appreciate your concerns. I believe I can do this. If you can’t believe that, too, then let’s no longer discuss it.” Set the boundary. I know it’s easier said than done sometimes, but it’s also needed, not just to set the boundary but to then hold it.

Because often, a naysayer will try again to dissuade you, especially when the underlying belief is an inability in themselves, and for some people, that’s too painful for them to face or even to be consciously aware of. So their subconscious will keep putting doubts into their brain, and depending on their level of self-awareness and self-control, they may keep voicing those doubts to you, even after you’ve set the boundary.

If that continues to happen, then remove yourself from the conversation. If you’re in the same room, leave the room. If you’re on a phone call, hang up. Seriously. They need to respect your boundary.

“You might be right.”

My friend, Julie Voris, has great advice to deal with the naysayers in your life. It’s something that they can’t argue back against, and it’s not mean. Julie says when someone is telling you all the reasons why what you want to do won’t work, simply reply, “You might be right.” And leave it at that. Brilliant, right? Try it, it works.  

I discussed this episode topic with Julie, and she asked if I’d pass on a powerful reminder to you. Side note, if you don’t follow Julie on Instagram, you need to. Julie’s reminder is this: No one has to sign off on  your goals and dreams. They are your goals and dreams for a reason, because only you can make them come true. Others in your life have their own goals and dreams.

So remember that, you don’t need anyone’s permission to go after your goals and dreams. Thanks for that reminder, Julie. 

You do you.

I realize that, depending on who it is in your life who’s being the naysayer, it can be particularly challenging to push back. Or it may not be challenging at all to push back. Because sometimes what’s coming at you from the naysayers is not just unnecessary but ludicrous. And if what they are saying is hurtful to you, take care of yourself, first and foremost. Tell them that it’s not okay that they say those hurtful things to you. Set that hard boundary, and hold it. 

Most of the time, though, I believe that the naysayers in our lives do mean well. They are coming from a place of love and care, and they believe that they are looking out for our best interests. But they are likely also allowing their own fears and experiences affect their reactions to us.

Sometimes, the best course of action is to disregard the naysayers, take the trip, and fully enjoy yourself. You do you.

Final Thoughts

As a final thought, I challenge you to be mindful of how you react when others share their goals and dreams, travel or otherwise, with you. If you find yourself wanting to dissuade them from pursuing their goals and dreams instead of encouraging them, ask yourself why. The more we learn about ourselves, the more it benefits us and everyone else in our lives.

Resources

Read Amanda’s Top 10 Safety Tips for Solo Travelers. 

Follow Julie Voris on Instagram for health and fitness tips.